I haven’t dated much since my diagnosis but I have had sex a handful of times. For me, rheum got my hands first. Not uncommon but when you’re dealing with swollen hands I guarantee you that one of the last thoughts you have is about how they will affect sex or your ability to pleasure … Continue reading »
Rheum and the Single Girl – Dating
I’m the first to admit that my dating calendar has always been sparse. It’s not like having Rheum ground my full social calendar to a halt but it has definitely changed how I approach dating. First, I have limited energy and good days. I do not want to waste them on someone who isn’t worth … Continue reading »
Rheum and the Single Girl
I’ve lived on my own since 2007. Before that there were roommates, a common-law spouse, and of course family. I’m an introvert. There is a part of me that likes to be alone. A part of me that needs to be alone to recharge, refocus, and to just be. Even when I live with others, … Continue reading »
Selfish* condescending and unapproachable, that’s me!
Those are not words I feel as an HR professional should be written on an evaluation, and yet I’m staring at them on mine. They were accompanied by a book on emotional intelligence. I do not lack emotional intelligence. I lack giving a fuck. There is a big difference. I am half inclined to just … Continue reading »
It’s a lemon
If it seems too good to be true it is. Sorry if that sounds incredibly depressing but well I’ve spent the day mostly spiraling into the darkness that is my depressive mind. It happened with Enbrel – I thought it would be the drug that gave me back my life. It helped but not enough. This … Continue reading »
#Scintilla13 – Why didn’t someone warn me?
Today’s prompt: Write about spending time with a baby or child under the age of two. The challenge: if you’re a parent, do not talk about your own child. *** My little cousin Day (not his full name) was born when I was 13. He was the first baby I’d spent a considerable amount of time … Continue reading »
#Scintilla13 – Lift Every Voice and Sing
Today’s prompt: What is the longest thing you know by heart (for example, a prayer, speech, commercial jingle, etc.)? Why did you learn it? *** In my early teens my Auntie E helped to organize a Saturday morning language/heritage class for black students. The deal was that there had to be a language component, which proved … Continue reading »
#Scintilla13 – Fix You
Today’s prompt: Talk about a time when you were driving and you sang in the car, all alone. Why do you remember this song and that stretch of road? *** I’d driven right from work Saturday afternoon to spend the night with him. This had become the norm for us, an evening spent together with me … Continue reading »
#Scintilla13 – The Scotch Experience
Today’s prompt: Tell a story about a time you got drunk before you were legally old enough to do so. You never forget your first time or so they say. I wish I could forget mine. It was only my second trip to Montreal and I was hoping this time I’d get to do more of … Continue reading »
This space
I’ve been thinking about what this space has become, what is was and what I want it to be. Currently, it’s where I vent my frustrations about RA and work but it was never supposed to be that. I started this blog when I found my sex blog (gasp) waning. It’s hard to have a … Continue reading »
